Do you want to be more confident?
Confidence has a lot to do with your personal outlook. If you’re not feeling very confident, don’t worry: we all struggle with confidence sometimes. Here are a few tips and tricks to boost that confidence and get you back on track!
Fake it ’til you make it
Fake it ’til you make it is a common phrase used to be more confident. It means that you ‘trick’ yourself into thinking you’re confident until your actual confidence catches up. For example, if you’re terrified of public speaking but need to give a speech at work, practice by talking to people around town (in a way that won’t make them feel weird or uncomfortable).
You’ll be practising the same motions, but without the pressure of having everyone’s attention on you and without the physical evidence of failure from screwing up. And because this will happen over and over again—you might even feel like an expert after just one attempt!
As long as this habit isn’t combined with other bad habits and doesn’t become too extreme in nature, it’s one way for some people to build their confidence organically through practice and repetition.
Learn as much as you can
There are few things in life more rewarding than learning something new, especially when that knowledge is gained through personal experience. If learning to be more confident was an easy task, there would be no need for this article!
But it’s not impossible—and if you’re willing to put in the work, then all of your hard work will pay off in spades. Learning how to talk to people and being comfortable in social situations can be overwhelming at first but once these skills are mastered they become second nature and make interactions feel natural and effortless instead of awkward or uncomfortable.
Even if you don’t want to take the time right now (which is totally understandable), consider taking a class or attending a workshop on public speaking. There may even be one offered at your local community college!
Knowing that power comes from within will help build confidence because it allows us to develop genuine self-esteem which means we won’t rely solely on external validation from othersAnon
Give yourself positive affirmations
It can be easy to forget about the good things you’ve done, especially if it’s been a while since you saw them written down. Remind yourself of your accomplishments with a piece of paper on your wall or in your phone.
To help you be more confident, write down at least one thing that went well each day, such as:
- I stayed organised when I had to work on several projects at once
- I got up early enough to exercise and eat breakfast before going to work
Set stretch goals
Goals can be a powerful tool to help you be more confident. You just need to make sure they’re the right ones. Make sure your goals are:
1. Stretching, but not impossible:
If you set an unrealistic goal, it may feel like a waste of time when you don’t achieve it — which will make you think even less of yourself and therefore reduce your confidence further. For example, if your goal is to run five miles per day for two weeks straight without missing any days, then that may be too challenging. Instead try setting smaller goals of running two miles on Monday and three miles on Tuesday, etc., until eventually reaching the five-mile mark over several weeks or months.
Goals should have a clear end date so that once they’ve been completed (or not), there’s no more ambiguity about whether they were successful or not. People who do things with deadlines tend to learn faster than those who don’t know when their work is due!
It’s difficult to tell whether something has been achieved unless there is some way of measuring progress along the way. If there isn’t any measurement involved in achieving success then it becomes very hard for us, since most people like having tangible results from their actions!
Look your best
Looking your best is not only about physical appearance. It’s also about how you present yourself on a daily basis. You can have the most stunning wardrobe, but if you’re always wearing a scowl or hanging your head, it won’t matter.
Your appearance should be intentional and alert. You want to be able to walk into any room in your community with confidence and leave an impression of someone who has a purpose and knows what they’re doing there.
Get involved in the community
One of the best ways to be more confident is to get involved in your community. By getting involved, you’ll meet new people and expand your social circle, which can help you feel more supported and connected. You can be involved in many different ways, for example by volunteering at a local charity or drop-in center, joining a sports team or club, starting to write short stories for children’s magazines, signing up for an art class … the possibilities are endless!
Getting started on this journey isn’t always easy though and sometimes we just need someone to hold our hand and point us in the right direction.
Remember to breathe
If you’re feeling anxious, take a moment to breathe deeply. Breathing is an essential part of being human and can help you feel calmer and more in control. When thinking about confidence, it’s important to remember that people will notice if you’re nervous or out-of-breath—so try your best to keep calm by taking deep breaths.
Think about how much easier it is to do something when you are breathing calmly than when you are panicked! If at all possible, take a moment before walking into the room where others might be waiting on your arrival—and just breathe deeply until they call your name.
If you’re struggling to find your confidence, these tips could help. Remember that there’s no magic bullet here. It takes time to build confidence—and sometimes it can be tough! But by taking small steps and being patient with yourself, you’ll get there in the end. And even if you don’t feel confident all the time, that’s normal. Don’t try to force it. Let it come naturally and organically as you work on building up your self-esteem and make some positive changes in your life! Best of luck with whatever journey is ahead for you!