If you find yourself constantly setting goals and not achieving them, it could be time to reach out for some coaching. But, what if you don’t have a coach? No problem! This article will teach you how to self coach into a better place.
Step 1: Look For The Patterns In Your Life
The first step to self coach is to look for the patterns in your life. Patterns are a good place to start because they show you what you’re doing and how you’re doing it. They help you see where things might be going wrong, or if there’s something missing from your current approach that would make it more effective.
For example, if one of the patterns in your life is procrastination (which, let’s face it, applies to most of us!), then this can help point out that when you do get around to doing something important or beneficial for yourself or others, it will be easier than usual because there’s already a pattern set up for success!
This is an example of how knowing about patterns helps us see opportunities hiding within them — and capitalising on those opportunities isn’t always easy without some guidance.
Step 2: Know Your Goal And Why You Want It
Knowing your goal is the first step to achieving it. If you don’t know what your goal is, how can you ever achieve it? The answer is simple: you can’t.
But knowing your goal isn’t just important — it’s essential. In fact, if I had to choose between achieving a goal and knowing my goals in life, having clear goals would be far more important than actually attaining them at all costs (but we’ll get into that later).
In short: know your goals!
But, also make sure that they align with what motivates YOU most. It is pointless setting yourself goals that don’t motivate you. If you have a passion for it, you are far more likely to succeed.
Step 3: Use Your Inner Wisdom To Set A Plan
Once you’ve identified what you want to accomplish and how you’ll do it, it’s time to set a plan. In this step, you’ll ask yourself:
- What is my goal?
- How long will it take me to achieve this goal?
- How will I break down my goal into smaller, specific steps?
- When do I want to complete these steps?
Remember, failing to plan is planning to fail!
Step 4: Review, Review, Review
Now that you’ve completed a few steps, it’s time to take a step back and review your progress. You may want to do this on a regular basis by setting time aside each week or month.
Use a checklist to help you assess where you are with your personal development goals, for example:
- What went well? Which tasks did I complete? What did I learn from completing them?
- How will I feel when I reach my goal (e.g., more confident)?
- If I could have done anything differently, what would it have been?
- What has been my biggest learning?
There is an inner wisdom that everyone has access to. It’s always there, and it can help you self coach toward your goals.
It is the source of all your best ideas, so it’s great for overcoming challenges and avoiding procrastination.
It can help you self coach if you learn how to tap into it. What’s more, this type of coaching will be more effective than what others offer — since no one else has access to your inner wisdom.
If you’re struggling with setting goals, don’t despair. There are many ways to help yourself reach this goal. The first step is always the hardest (and sometimes the only step) but once it is taken, all others flow naturally from there. So go ahead and start to self coach, today!